I have to share what happened yesterday morning.  MN came to me upset because J was "judging" her bio's and she doesn't like it.  She is highly upset and almost in tears.  J isn't in the room, but comes in as we talk.  I keep trying to find out why it hurts so.  She says it just does.  I try pointing out that she is judging J.  She doesn't get it.  Oh by judging, J thinks her bio's should be in jail for what they did.   Finally after J is in the room she figures it out enough that when I ask why it bothers her so much she answers, "I love them!"  Wow!    I hug her and tell her how proud I am.   I tell her how much she is showing J God's love. She has forgiven them for what they did.  She knows it was wrong and all but she doesn't hold grudges.  She loves them as God calls her to.   J gets up from the other end of the table and comes down and hugs her also.  I am trying to get J to understand this love.  I point out that MN doesn't want to live with them, but loves them. MN nods and says some day she wants to see them and give them a Bible and tell them about Jesus.   From there we talk about forgiveness and how allowing God to heal us frees us from the past junk.  This is all a different language to J.  She does "hate" some of her abuses and others she is afraid to voice the feelings she has.   After MN was able to voice she loves them then she could see how she was judging J also.    

This all happened as I was trying to eat breakfast.  Don't you want to come eat and join in our conversations?