I'm really not sure where the week has went!   Today is therapy and town day.   I have a long list.  We are going to swing by and look for some boots/shoes for J that fit country life.  Then on to the Christian Book Store for more "school" work.  I have a list of books recommendations.  We will be looking and choosing the one that seems best today.  I want one with a work book also.   That way there is more easy accountability in it.     Then on to the grocery store and therapy.  If we get out of therapy in time we will run get a friends beef.  I have freezer room for it until she can come get it. 

Tomorrow we are going to a friends house.  That will be fun.  I am glad I have a frozen peach cobbler.  I can pull it out and have a nice dish to take with no effort.  I think I should buy some more foil pans and make more.  

Yesterday was a very good day.   Are we honeymooning?  Probably   At least in part.  We had some more serious talks about what is expected of her in the area of boys.   I don't think she liked that it was a totally hands off approach.  That she wasn't to flirt or have physical contact or even try to get them to look at her.   I even told her the consequence of it.  She would be glued to mom.   I pointed out that to have young men look at her for her acts of service and her modesty and her heart is much more worth while than her body.  That her body will sag in time.   She wants a husband that will stick by her sags or what ever.   All of this is so new and so different for her.  It is almost not even a language she speaks.  

MN is frustrated because she feels J isn't listening to her as she offers "advice".   She talked late to dad and I about it.  We reminded her how long it took for her to choose to change.  How we had to keep loving and forgiving her over and over and over ......... I again reminded her we can only offer a different view.  We are sowing seeds.  It is Gods dept. to water them and J has to be willing to accept them.  As long as we can stand before God and be able to say we tried our best to teach her to be Godly then we are OK.  God will bless that.   The rest is between J and God.  We aren't to judge, just love her not her past or even her present sins.    On one level MN gets that, but then she goes back to wanting to help J feel free of her past hurts and so she again feels frustrated.  It is frustrating to me and at the same time makes my heart cry for joy to see how much she wants to help and to give of herself.  Such a change from the self-centered angry child that came into our home 3 years ago.  

MJ is feeling left out.  He wanted a brother!  He PRAYED for a brother.     I told him to keep praying.  That we were still very open once J was settled.   I told him to just keep praying.  He still feels left out but MN is making an effort to include him and seek him out just to hang with.

T is still trying to be cute.  She wants J to like her.  So she is willing to not tell J if she is doing something mom won't approve of.  Last night she did that and I made her go appoligize to J because she allowed J to do something mom wouldn't like.   She sure didn't like that!  I hope a few times of having to go after the fact and speak truth she will decide it is just easier to speak it first.  

One of the things we have talked about is that real friends speak up when someone is doing wrong.  That those are the friends you can trust.  While people that allow you to do wrong and don't speak up aren't the type friends you want.  I challenge them to be the type friend that helps their friends grow and stay safe.

Time to get off here and start my day.  I have 2 kids up 2 kids napping still.  It is kinda nice for the 2 up to have "quite" time together before the other two get up.